Examples of Strength

When I start to feel depressed, or down, and wanting to wallow in it, I try to think of all the people in my life that have been wonderful examples of strength during terrible trials.
If you look around you, they are sure to be there. Do you know who they are?
I’m so thankful for the people that have been in my life.
One is a woman we knew many years ago. She used to work at the same place my husband did. She and her husband had 2 wonderful little boys, and went out of their way to invite my boys to parties and play dates. Her hubby installed a radio in my car when he found out that it didn’t have one. They were both really nice.
Her oldest son wasn’t doing well, and they found out he had some kind of genetic problem. It’s one that the males who have it don’t live long. He died when he was about 5 years old.
Less than 2 months later, her husband was in a terrible car accident (other driver drunk, if I remember right) She had to endure another funeral, losing yet another loved one.
Right about the same time her husband died, she found out that her youngest son had the same genetic problem that her oldest son did, and he died within the next year.
She was young, I’d say in her mid 20’s, and I always wonder if she ever found some one to love again. If she had more children. (As a mom, I can’t imagine anything worse than loosing a child.)
We moved away shortly after her husband was killed.
I will say, she always showed such strength and dignity, love and a strong belief in God. She was a true example of strength during what was, what I can think of, the most unimaginable times of pain.
I have a cousin who’s in her early late 30’s or early 40’s. She found out that she has cancer throughout her whole face.
The only option was to remove most of it, including part of her nose.
She has young children, and I know that her appearance was a concern to her. Would they be afraid?
They aren’t. They love her.
She’s gone through so many surgeries, not to mention chemo and radiation treatments. She’s fighting to stay and be a part of their lives.
She has kept her wonderful sense of humor, and although I can’t imagine going through it, she seems to remain calm and strong throughout everything.
About a year and a half ago, her mother (my aunt) died of cancer. She was there to help console her other siblings, and extended family members.
There are people here in ‘spaces’ that have gone through horrific times in their lives, lost family members, lost children.
I want to tell you, Thank YOU. By sharing your story, your pain, you are an example of  what real strength is.
It’s a reminder that we all have trials and terrible things come into our lives, but, it’s how we handle them, how we react. It’s so important that we not let them crush us or our spirit, and it makes me almost glad that I have my own problems and not some one elses.

27 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. SAAM
    Oct 18, 2007 @ 09:28:58

    It is attitude about how we handle our problems.  I can\’t imagine going through the same thing as the people you mentioned.  Strong is the word when they probably want to curl up and die.  Thanks for sharing


  2. Jane
    Oct 18, 2007 @ 09:47:40

    Those people make me realize that I really have NO problems.  Certainly nothing to complain about.  But, of course, I do anyway.
    I admire the people who not only make it through such challenges but also have the strength to share their experiences.  You said it magnificently!


  3. ₪Μy§TẲfiЄĐ₪
    Oct 18, 2007 @ 10:01:44

    Yessss Halloween Good

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    Knock, knock Who\’s there? Forgive me Father, for I have sinned. What, and that makes you special?
    Knock, knock Who\’s there? Ted Bundy Ted Bundy who? Let me in, meat! No! I mean Hello I am Santa Claus. Yay! Santa!
    Knock, knock Who\’s there? You want to buy a kitten? You want to buy a kitten who? Make pretty pet. I\’m allergic to cats. Taste good, too?
    Garry xoxo
    p.s. you have a beautiful space 🙂


  4. ZePp...
    Oct 18, 2007 @ 12:14:46

    AMEN.    Well you know me and my attitude Steph.. try to stay light hearted and make peeps laugh…
    I guess I AM one of the ones that tend to bitch over little things… when I probly shouldnt.
    Atleast I hope i dont do it TOOOO much.. many others have it MUCH worse off than me !!!
    Peace my friend !!!!!
    Pleasae watch for Bikers… we are EVERYWHERE !!!!!


  5. Teri
    Oct 18, 2007 @ 14:00:04

    Amen and Amen!


  6. PJ
    Oct 18, 2007 @ 14:05:16

    I come to you via Carlos GBS event
    and to wish you a spookdelicious and totally awesome halloween



    Hi Steph, nice to meet you!


  7. David
    Oct 18, 2007 @ 15:24:51

    I have noticed that, by and large, people do not change much when they themselves are very ill or dying, or when they suffer great losses.  One thinks, before it happens, "If this happened or that; if I was given 6 months to live, I\’d do this and that."  But when the time comes, they seem to go on just as they always have.  Maybe people don\’t really know how to be any different than they are.  It never seems to make any difference to me to know that others are worse off or better off than me.  I have my life to deal with, and what bothers me bothers me, and what doesn\’t doesn\’t.  It is remarkably easy to endure other people\’s difficulties, and remarkably difficult to endure my own, regardless of which look greater to the outside observer.  My favorite Happy Days moment has always been when Potsy and Ralph lied to the Fonz, and when he found out, he was outraged, and exclaimed, "You LIED to me?" and Potsy and Ralph both cringed with eyes closed waiting for an attack, and Fonz slammed his fist down on the desk, and Potsy said, "Oh, good!  He hit Ralph!".  That\’s me all over. 


  8. Ameriah
    Oct 18, 2007 @ 16:49:26

    Happy Hauntings from me to you!
    I\’m with Carlos\’ halloween GBE crew…
    What did the skeleton say to the vampire? You suck.  
    Why did the ghost go into the bar? For the Boos.  
    Why did the game warden arrest the ghost? He didn\’t have a haunting license.
    Scare ya later!


  9. Lena
    Oct 18, 2007 @ 17:10:21

    Good evening Steph.  I can relate to what you are saying/feeling.  Someone (and can\’t remember who) told me once that if everybody put all of their problems in a pile in the middle of the room, and those same people were then told to pull a problem out of that same pile, full of others\’ problems as well, most peeps would take their own problem back.  It always help to remember that no matter how big the problem seems to yourself at the moment, there\’s always someone out there with bigger problems.  I often think about the families of 9/11 victims when I\’m feeling sorry for myself, and I get a new attitude, real quick!
    Hugs to you.


  10. Raven
    Oct 18, 2007 @ 18:52:10

    More powerful words…thank you for sharing!


  11. KatSoup
    Oct 18, 2007 @ 21:59:00

    WOW.  i noticed both of them are women 🙂


  12. Princess
    Oct 19, 2007 @ 10:26:07

    IT\’S HALLOWEENIt\’s Halloween! It\’s Halloween!The moon is full and brightAnd we shall see what can\’t be seenOn any other night.Skeletons and ghosts and ghouls,Grinning goblins fighting duels,Werewolves rising from their tombs,Witches on their magic brooms.In masks and gownswe haunt the streetAnd knock on doorsfor trick or treat.Tonight we arethe king and queen,For oh tonightit\’s Halloween!~Jack Prelutsky~
    I came from Carlos Cool Corner Halloween GB Event
    To wish you a Happy Halloween


  13. cathy
    Oct 19, 2007 @ 10:46:36

    Boo!!!! I\’m here visiting from Carlos Halloween Event,I have alittle treat for you but first Beware!!!!
    Ghosts and goblins seeping out,From haunted houses all about.Witches, vampires, devils too,Stirring bats into Blubber Stew.Children dressing up once more,To go Trick or Treating at somebody\’s door.Some give candy, some give more,Some just bang their wooden door.Spooks are watching, just for you,So you be careful what you do.Make sure not to catch a fright,On this blood-curdling Halloween night.AAAAAAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!
    Now onto your treat like I promised 🙂  http://img229.imageshack.us/img229/8135/halloweenpressiegh2.gif
    and this  http://img524.imageshack.us/img524/5471/hgbg1jl7.gif
    Have spooktacular Halloween!
    ~Love N Hugs~


  14. jjjj
    Oct 19, 2007 @ 18:54:06

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  15. Marc
    Oct 19, 2007 @ 19:56:09

    Coming to you from Carlos\’ Halloween Event
    ~~~~~~~HAPPY HALLOWEEN~~~~~~~~~
    Remember! Hell ain\’t a bad place to be 😉

    Brought to you from "The Hang Out 1968"
    B-BY-LA ((((MARC))))


  16. Rusty
    Oct 19, 2007 @ 21:01:09

          Hi Steph:
              Nice space, I love your pics.
     Coming to you from Carlos\’ Hallowe\’en GBS to leave you with this: 
    Just be careful I\’m going to say,As you go tripping along your wayOn all Hallow\’s Eve when the ghouls are out,They\’ll scare you bad and push you about.
    Scare them first is what I say,And make them give all their candy away.Now go on my darling and have some fun,Cause if you don\’t, I\’ll make you run.
     Evil laugh——Ha, ha , ha haaaaa!!!!!!! Cackle, cackle!!!
    From me to you:

    Happy Haunting!!!
    Rusty ((HUGS))


  17. Norm
    Oct 19, 2007 @ 22:01:42

    Hi Steph:
      Truer words were never spoken.
    I\’m coming through from Carlos Guestbook signing event.   First a few jokes.
    Why did the vampire go to the orthodontist?To improve his bite…
    What do you get when you cross a vampire and a snowman?Frostbite…
    Why do witches use brooms to fly on?Because vacuum cleaners are too heavy…
    How do witches keep their hair in place while flying?With scare spray…
    What do you get when you cross a werewolf and a vampire?A fur coat that fangs around your neck…
    Do zombies eat popcorn with their fingers?No, they eat the fingers separately…
    Why don\’t skeletons ever go out on the town?Because they don\’t have any body to go out with…
      And a couple of gifts for you.  http://i118.photobucket.com/albums/o104/redheadedmist1/Halloweengiftfornv.gif  http://i118.photobucket.com/albums/o104/redheadedmist1/HalloweenforGB.gif  Have a happy and safe Halloween ok?    Norm


  18. Geri
    Oct 19, 2007 @ 23:37:04

    I\’m Flying in from Carlos Cool Corner Halloween GB Event
    and I\’m coming to Get You, My Pretty ……………ahaaahaaaaaa………….To leave you some spooky Halloween Treats!!!!
    ~~12 Days of Cryptmas~~
    On the first day of Cryptmas my Ghoul Love gave to me…"A trip to the Mortuary"
    On the second day of Cryptmas my Ghoul love gave to me…"2 Murderous Shoves", and a trip to the Mortuary.
    On the third day of Cryptmas my Ghoul love gave to me…"3 Leathal Blows", 2 Murderous shoves, and a trip to the Mortuary.
    On the fouth day of Cryptmas my Ghoul love gave to me…"4 Thousand~VOLTS!!~",3 Leathal blows, 2 Murderous shoves, and a trip to the Mortuary.
    On the fifth day of Cryptmas my Ghoul love gave to me…"5.. Mortal.. Wounds", 4 Thousand ~VOLTS!~, 3 Leathal blows, 2 Murderous shoves, and a trip to the Mortuary.
    On the sixth day of Cryptmas my Ghoul love gave to me…"6 Fiends Disemboweling", 5..Mortal..wounds..4 Thousand ~VOLTS!~,3 Leathal blows, 2 Murderous shoves and a trip to the Mortuary.
    On the seventh day of Cryptmas my Ghoul love gave to me…"7 Werewolves Howling", 6 Fiends disemboweling, 5..Mortal..wounds..4 Thousand ~VOLTS!~, 3 Leathal blows, 2 Murderous shoves and a trip to the Mortuary.
    On the eighth day of Cryptmas my Ghoul love gave to me…"8 Mangelers Mangling", 7 Werewolves howling, 6 Fiends disemboweling, 5..Mortal..wounds..4 Thousand ~VOLTS!~, 3 Leathal blows, 2 Murderous shoves and a trip to the Mortuary.
    On the ninth day of Cryptmas my Ghoul love gave to me…"9 Stranglers Strangling", 8 Mangelers mangling, 7 Werewolves howling, 6 Fiends disemboweling, 5..Mortal..wounds..4 Thousand ~VOLTS!~, 3 Leathal blows, 2 Murderous shoves, and a trip to the Mortuary.
    On the tenth day of Cryptmas my Ghoul love gave to me.."10 Heads Ker-Ploping", 9 Stranglers strangling, 8 Mangelers mangling, 7 Werewolves howling, 6 fiends disemboweling, 5..Mortal..wounds..4 Thousand ~VOLTS!~, 3 Leathal blows, 2 Murderous shoves, and a trip to the Mortuary.
    On the eleventh day of Cryptmas my Ghoul love gave to me.."11 Choppers Chopping", 10 Heads ker=ploping, 9 Stranglers strangling, 8 Mangelers mangling, 7 Werewolves howling, 6 Fiends disemboweling, 5..Mortal..wounds..4 Thousand ~VOLTS!~, 3 Leathal blows, 2 Murderous shoves and a trip to the Mortuary.
    On..the twelve day of Cryptmas my Ghoul love gave to me.."12 Ax Men Loping", 11 Choppers chopping, 10 Heads ker-ploping, 9 Stranglers strangling, 8 Mangelers mangling, 7 Werewolves howling, 6 Fiends disemboweling, 5..Mortal..wounds..4 Thousand ~VOLTS!~, 3 Leathal blows, 2 Murderous shoves…And A Trip…To The …Mortuary!

    FOR U………

    😉 HeHeHe…I don\’t deserve all this Happiness!!~AAAAAAAAH HA…HA..HAaaaaaaaa!!~


  19. Carol
    Oct 20, 2007 @ 08:38:21

    Very well put Steph. You are right. We all need to count our blessings more often.
     Coming to you from Carlos\’s guestbook signing day, HAPPY GUESTBOOK SIGNING DAY andHAPPY HALLOWEEN! Hugs<IMG SRC="http://saturn.walagata.com/w/dreamer9491/GUESTBOOK_SIGNING_DAY.gif"&gt;
    "The witches flyAcross the sky,The owls go, "Who ? Who ? Who ?"The black cats yowlAnd green ghosts howl,"Scary Halloween to you !"


  20. Vicky
    Oct 20, 2007 @ 14:14:46

    I\’m stopping in from Carlos Halloween Event.
    Hope that you have a creepy and spooky Halloween.
    Watch out for witches…HaaaaaaHaaaaaaHaaaaa!!
    Here is a little gift for you…

    Enjoy it my pretty!!


  21. FATIN
    Oct 20, 2007 @ 17:35:10




  22. Drama
    Oct 21, 2007 @ 02:21:09

    hey there!
    im swinging by from carlos halloween GB event!

    A gentle breeze rustling the dry cornstalks. A sound is heard, a goblin walks.A harvest moon suffers a black cat\’s cry. Oh\’ do the witches fly!Bonfire catches a pumpkins gleem.Rejoice, it\’s Halloween!
    these are ur treats :
    click here
    and here
    tons of scares!
    drama que3n


  23. ღ_BabyEvelyne
    Oct 21, 2007 @ 05:15:14

    нι тнєяє ! χ
    ι\’м ¢σмιηg αяσυη∂ ву¢αяℓσѕ нαℓℓσωєєη gв єνєηт
    ∂σ уσυ вєℓιєνє тнαт ρєσρℓє ¢αη ∂яєαм αвσυт ωнαт ιѕ gσιηg тσ нαρρєη؟-ησ∂σ уσυ вєℓιєνє ιη тнє вσσgιємαη-ησтнєη уσυ ωσηт мιη∂ ¢σℓ¢σ¢кιηg тнιѕ gυу ωнєη ι вяιηg нιм συт.
    уσυ нєαя∂ мє… ι gяαв тнє gυу ιη му ∂яєαм… уσυ ѕєє мє ѕтяυggℓє ѕσ уσυ ωαкє мє υρ! ωє вσтн ¢σмє συт, уσυ ωα¢к тнє ƒυ¢кєя αη∂ ωє gσт тнєм!
    -αяє уσυ ¢яαzу, нιт нιм ωιтн ωнαт؟уσυ αяє тнє נσ¢к, уσυ нανє α вαѕєвαℓℓ вαт σя ѕσмєтнιηg. נυѕт мєєт мє αт му ρσя¢н αт мι∂ηιgнт… σω αη∂ мєαηωнιℓє.
    мєαηωнιℓє ؟
    -ωнαт єνєя уσυ ∂σ…∂σ ησт…ƒαℓℓ…αѕℓєєρ!
    *нαρρу нαℓℓσωєєη*
    нυgнѕ & χ-χ-χ


  24. Sissel
    Oct 21, 2007 @ 05:19:25

    Hi Steph

    Coming from Carlos Halloween GB. Since I was so early with my first visit I\’m here with a new gift for you.
    <a href="http://tinypic.com&quot; target="_blank"><img src="http://i22.tinypic.com/2gsiruq.gif&quot; border="0" alt="Image and video hosting by TinyPic"></a>
    Take care.
    Love from Sissel


  25. Nooner™
    Oct 21, 2007 @ 07:52:07

    Tremendously good food for thought, Steph. Thank you for sharing!


  26. Yours Truly
    Oct 22, 2007 @ 18:25:37

    Have a creepy Halloween!
    Go ahead, change your routine.
    Toss your cares in a ravine.
    And let your house become unclean.
    Give voice to a piercing keen –
    By all means, create a scene.
    Powers of darkness now convene;
    Night spirits careen unseen.
    Dress like a queen and preen,
    Or dress like a ghost really mean.
    Eat some candy – the best cuisine,
    But not so much that you turn green.


  27. Seth
    Oct 29, 2007 @ 13:22:21

    Laugh hard, smile no matter what youre going through, give everyone a second chance, and don\’t ever forget…rules were meant to be broken….life is too short to be anything but happy! Being happy doesn\’t mean that everything is perfect.  It\’s just you\’ve decided to see life beyond the imperfections.  So, don\’t say your happy because everythings alright… be happy because everything sucks but your doing just fine.  I know.  I know.  Easier said than done.  But really, the happiest people don\’t necessarily have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.
    (((smiles)))   Great blog entry!


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