I live in a very small town in Idaho, and since the Mill closed down, it’s been an economically depressed area.
So, when I see the way things have been going around here it makes me wonder.
First, my oldest daughter’s friends have been turning 16. Now I agree that’s a special age, and reason to celebrate, but, the trend of how they celebrate has me worried. Besides lavish gifts, it’s been, a Limo to pick up, in one case, 12 girls in another 6 girls. Take them to dinner over in Boise, to an under age dance club, then cold stone for ice cream, and home. The second was dinner in Boise, a movie, cruisin downtown Boise, dessert and home.
From what I understand, the rest of the girls all plan on doing something similar, which will include a limo.
Nothing like setting unrealistic expectations (at least for my daughters) I can’t afford an evening like that.
I was complaining about this to a few of my female cousins and found out from one, who recently moved from Utah, that the area she came from the latest "thing" to do for your daughter when she graduates High School is to give her a "boob job."
Have people gone totally mental? I can’t believe a parent would do this, and yet, it’s a common practice. SICK and Sad.
Yesterday was my youngest daughter’s class Valentine’s Day party. It’s always fun, she has a great group of friends in her class, and Seth… silly, goofy, Seth. He always has me laughing.
At the end of the party, one of the office aides came into the room to deliver Valentine’s Day presents. There were the usual balloons, flowers, tiny stuffed animals, but I was surprised that almost every child got something. Which was nice. Then there were the parents that went over board (well to my thinking) I mean a 5 plus foot stuffed teddy bear, plus flowers and balloons? Then there was a huge gift basket for one little girl (heck I was jealous!) LOL
Another one got a huge mylar balloon and a huge stuffed "worm" was what it kinda looked like, but it was in pinks and purples.
I love doing special things for my kids, but for heaven’s sake, these kids are 12!
I had a talk with my girls, and they seem to be pretty understanding about it. They know that’s not something we can afford to do, but that they are loved anyway.
Oh, to leave things on an "up" note. I’ve noticed that my youngest and her friends have a crush on a boy who works at the grocery store. I think he’s 16, and is the best friend of the oldest brother of my daughter’s best friend.
So, the other day after he helped us get our groceries loaded and had gone back into the store, I commented that he was a cutie. My daughter was shocked, "MOM!" lol I had to laugh because she was more shocked that I knew what a cute boy was more than anything. He is cute, you just wanna squish his little cheeks and tell him he’s a cutie. LOL NO, I didn’t do that! lmao
Apparently (in my daughter’s mind) I’m an old lady who knows, or should know nothing about what’s cute or not.
Later she quietly says, Ash and I think he’s cute too. LMAO I said, Well, you girls have good taste, and left it at that. Kids, they are too funny.
BIG HUGS, Steph